think my position here in my new company (been here for 5 months) won't last long. either they fire me for my poor performance, OR i change to another team for which i intended to do so one month ago, OR change to another company instead.
don't know who's the main problem but i don't feel comfortable working with this colleague last time. so we've a quarrel last few days ago and now we totally don't talk much except work-related stuffs and i can sense that now his turn to be not feeling comfortable with me. and of course with such situation, i myself won't able to work well in such environment as well.
well, i strongly think that this guy is so arrogant. maybe this is in my own definition. another reason is he got damn bad temper, well i don't have a good one either. also that i saw him having too much expectation from me, expecting me to change to suit his behavior or follow whatever he think is the best for which i definitely un-agreeable with. well, maybe on the other perspective, im expecting too much from him and still i can said that this is what i think only.
from my understanding of him so far (5 months working with him here), i think we totally no longer able to perform well as a team mate in the near future as i expect that there will be a lot, i mean tonnes of bad mouthing or backstabbing occurring around either from him or myself (which im doing now here). and the so-called office political issue will revolve in our extremely high intensive stressful team.
during the confrontation last few days ago, we did express some misunderstanding and have clarify it and he did apologized to me on some issues that make me feel embarrass. however, i sense that something still missing, this guy is a total FAKE, he said sorry and gave me a handshake. well, i see that this kind of approach is so diplomatic and thus hypocrite. well u can see from the windows of the world where all leaders having a fake smiles and handshaking each others in front of the media but behind the scene a lot of planning to conquer each others. last time when i've a quarrel with my best friend and colleagues, we didn't do such diplomatic kind of thing but we settle it with a true and genuine identity, so in the end we still a happy best buddies.
for being work in a few companies and cooperate with so many colleagues before, i've never come across to have such a confrontation with this so-called selfish fake jerk. he really good in wearing multiple masks in front of different kind of people. after that incident, he didn't talk much with me anymore, he can have great conversation with other colleagues but everytime he saw me with a black face and tend to be acting so formal just like a stranger to me. well this might be his attitude as before this incident, he can act so well in front of manager and those higher ranking staffs. think he's born to be a great political leader. huh.
think i should open up my resume again from now onwards.
From this long passage I did not pick out any single technical argument that convinces me to "side" with you ;-)
Emotional words always fall short of the mark. Do not attempt to win others over with sizzling emotions.
The melody of logic will always play out the truth. ~ Narumi Ayumu, Spiral
well, after a few thoughts, and when i stand on the other side to view it, im so agree with u, icelava.
but i realized the root cause of my problem is maybe due to my natural human behavior of having the intention to avoid the issue that they facing everyday in their daily lifestyle.
that is whenever i face any form or sort of difficulties, im not able to cope with it and tends to avoid it rather than facing it like a brave man and challenge it.
i think i've been rated or left a very bad reputation among all my colleagues here now.
maybe i can said that im still in-mature in the real work environment or maybe it's myself that im still so naive.
what do u think is the wisest measure that i should implement in this kind of bad situation?
thanks again for the remarks.
ekuan
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http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671723650
my two cents
there is hardly a workplace on earth where you wont find such colleagues. you got to get along, compromise is name of the game. and i wont advise you to change company in 5 months, that adds negative impact to your resume.
when you are working (coding etc i believe) work from head keep heart(emotions) backdoor.
cheers
satish.
satish_nagdev: when you are working (coding etc i believe) work from head keep heart(emotions) backdoor.
Perhaps you're stressing on keeping "bad" emotions on the back door? Good emotions, such as empathy, care, goodwill, should not be left on the front door every morning when you clock in instead. These qualities make up a good social network. We may be technical person, but we're not robots.
usoup: Perhaps you're stressing on keeping "bad" emotions on the back door? Good emotions, such as empathy, care, goodwill, should not be left on the front door every morning when you clock in instead. These qualities make up a good social network. We may be technical person, but we're not robots.
totally agree with you